This article was written with love by Adam LoDolce.
If you want me to personally help you find love. Cavelady Clara thought she loved Caveman Carl.
After all, he brought dinosaur meat home and gave her some beautiful unibrow Cavebabies. But after a few years, she realized those were the best things about him. While we might feel so evolved compared to Clara and Carl, the fact is: women are still getting it wrong when it comes to lust vs. And throw in online dating …and the water just gets murkier.
If you keep finding yourself in lust vs. up while you still can! Just like love, lust feels pretty fantastic.
It lights you up inside. Gives you a reason to get up in the morning. And yet…lust and love are quite different. You may have nothing in common with a man, but you have an inexplicable attraction to him.
MRIs have shown that the same part of the brain that lights up when an addict takes a hit of cocaine as when someone is in lust. Because when things get real, you either end up in love or you realize you have no deep attraction to this person. You enjoy spending time with him, but you also continue to do the activities you enjoy outside of your relationship. Now the question is: is it a bad thing to be in lust? Absolutely not.
In fact, most healthy relationships begin with a large dose of lust.
6 red flags your partner is in lust, not love, with you
The only time I can think that being in lust vs. You know you dig this guy…but sometimes you like him more than others. Things are freaking amazing in the bedroom with this guy. It is quite possibly the best sex of your life. Now, on the one hand, it may just be too early in your relationship to expect to know each other better.
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And sex is definitely one way new couples get to know each other. But realize that sex is tricky. You can avoid this confusion by simply waiting a while to have sex. And the way he picks me up. Not the way his breath stinks, though. Focus on the arms! Adam on this free webinar to discover the 3 steps to building emotional attraction. You may be building a fantasy world around this guy, in part, because you know you have to create fiction to make up for his very real flaws.
What do I mean by that? Just spend time getting to know one another and doing activities you enjoy, like you would with a friend. Something happened that sped up this relationship from being a casual one to being a serious one…and yet something feels missing. That means you need to feel comfortable talking to him about your fear of commitment, your traumatic relationship history, or even your discomfort in talking about all of this!
This is a classic example of you being in lust vs. Is she a sister? An ex? A dog? You talk about easy things, like sports and the weather, but you never dive into the level of, oh, say, Veronica. If this bothers you, then talk about it.
Open up more and ask him more questions about his life and his past. But if he seems to want more from you than you do him, cut him free. Also, be honest with yourself. What about three? One month? Be honest about whether lust is enough for you right now. Knowing whether what you feel is lust or love is incredibly helpful because you can know where to go from here. I get that, even if you are looking for forever with a guy, sometimes you want to keep things light.
Is this relationship preventing you from finding true love? You bet. Realign your actions with your goals and get back on track.
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