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Going through a breakup is a particularly difficult. Put a stop to this pessimism, and as the saying goes, third time is the charm so get back on your horse and try to get your girl back! If your feelings are still present, getting back together again is the best solution. You have to recharge and get ready to fight for what you want in order to save your love story. Getting back together after a second break up is far from impossible. Discover how to overcome this obstacle and how to get a another shot in this article.

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By Chris Seiter. We will discuss the three stages that every dumper who dumps you more than once goes through so you can really understand what your ex is thinking. Bad news: Most of the time, people who get such exes back seem to break up again much faster as the relationship never lasts too long. Breakup bar — simply put, every single person on this planet has their own internal score that they give each individual person that they date.

At the beginning of a relationship, both partners usually value each other at We also call this the honeymoon period.

The breakup bar has been set too high and your ex would never want to give up their new connection to be back with you. Interestingly, the breakup bar is always comparing the new person to the old person. So, at first, the new person always scores better but that can change as time goes on and reality sets in. They start to romanticize the past and it makes them a lot more vulnerable to the limerence stage. Limerence can also be defined as an involuntary state of intense romantic desire. Eventually, this might sow the seeds of wanting to get back together with you as well.

Most of our clients who are in on-again-off-again relationships get their exes back when their ex is going through a limerence state of mind.

That le us to the third stage. I love movies of all types of genres but the one movie that always seems to stick out for me when it comes to romantic comedies is the very clever movie days of summer.

Why did my ex leave again?

So, is it possible to stop this cycle? There is a lot to unpack here and one article cannot possibly lay out an exact strategic game plan to fix your situation. I talk about this all the time with regards to men and women putting their exes on impossibly unrealistic pedestals where their ex can do no wrong.

Things can actually get better too if you approach it the right way. The right way to approach an ex who slips into the on-again-off-again system is by acting with dignity and putting your foot down about fixing past problems. We want to break that cycle and make your ex realize that you will not be used that way anymore. The moment you adopt the mindset of realizing your true worth you will have the strength and dignity to stop settling for the bare minimum.

Think of it like this — a dumper who has dumped you more than once and continues taking you back is the one usually making all the decisions. They are active, you are passive. It is time for you to take back the reigns and become more active.

Next time your ex asks for you back you can say something like:. If your ex is too stuck in their expectations and refuses to put any work into the new relationship you should consider gathering up all your courage and dignity to let them know that you will not be treated this way any longer. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam.

Learn how your comment data is processed. Shaunna, thanks for the advice. We were actually talking like normal, back and forth for a while, then we had a bit of a negative exchange and thats why I went into a NC again.

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So, watching this video made me think of an interesting thing that happened with my ex. We broke up, we started talking again only talking, not togetherthen he ghosted…. Hi Hanna, but the sounds of things he knows he still has that window with you to get you back, so you need to make him work harder for your time and attention. Complete a no contact period before replying to his next reach out.

My ex ghosted me. WHY do guys do this? Should I still go ahead and send to his place? I already did NC for 30 days so what is left for me to do? However I would not recommend sending a gift to him. If you reach out ot him again and get no response a second them then you need to go into a short no contact for 21 days. Is there still a chance? Even if I destroyed the relationship twice because of the same exact reason and he found interest in one of his colleagues at work in the meantime?

Hi Anja, if this is true then I would suggest your focus being on your anxiety and jealousy issues before attempting to get into another relationship with your ex or anyone else. Your self confidence and happiness being alone is what is key to success, if you are not confident then any person you have a relationship with is going to see this and not going to want to be in a relationship where they essentially are controlled due to you being worried about his actions. Thank you Shaunna, I will read again the posts about texts for doing that.

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So you suggest to reach out before or after his birthday and not saying anything to him that day? Hi Jenni, it is great that you are focusing on yourself and your health. You say he left because he thought you were going to leave him. Were there many arguments or fallouts in your relationship to make him believe this? Be sure that you complete your 30 day no contact, then reach out to him with a text that Chris suggests in his articles. My ex boyfriend broke up with me beginning of December and decided to go NC.

Is it still possible to have him back? Is it still possible or should I move on?

Hi Nina, you can apply the being there method as you are able to get in touch with him, however you need to be sure that you understand the being there method fully and complete a 45 day no contact before reaching out to him for the first time. I want to reconnect with my ex. I could text him but after thhe two unanswered texts I am insecure. What should I do? Hi Bella, I would suggest that you reach out by text with one of the options that Chris suggests in his articles and use that as an ice breaker for conversation.

What are your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back?

We suggest that you do not reach out on birthdays as this has not shown not to get enough interest to have a conversation with an ex. Making Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous. Success Stories. The No Contact Rule.

The Podcast. What Your Ex Says Vs. What They Really Mean. By Chris Seiter Updated on March 8th, Take the quiz. What to Read Next. By Chris Seiter 0 comments.

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Thank you for the reply! Anja January 14, at pm. Bella January 14, at am. Yes, either before or after his birthday, without mentioning it at all.

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